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Caroline Heldman helps tell the story of one girl’s rape in Silsbee, Texas

For several months, Caroline Heldman at the Ms. Magazine blog has been reporting on the case of a high school cheerleader who was kicked off the squad after she refused to cheer for the basketball player who raped her.

Here’s a little background on the story:

As Rakheem Bolton came to the free throw line during a February 2009 basketball game, the Silsbee High cheerleading squad had a rhyme at the ready: two, four, six, eight, ten, come on Rakheem, put it in.

Four months earlier, cheerleader Hillaire S. had alleged that Bolton had raped her at a house party. And now she was being asked to gleefully urge him to “put it in.” She quietly folded her arms, stepped back from the rest of the squad, and refused.

A few weeks later, she once again found herself asked to cheer when Bolton approached the free-throw line. This time, she knelt down next to her cheerleading coach and remained silent. The coach took her into the gym’s foyer to face the school superintendent and the Silsbee principal. Hillaire says they told her she needed to cheer for everyone. Sobbing, she stood her ground. She was formally removed from the squad the next school day.

– Caroline Heldman, A Cheerleader’s Rape In A Small Texas Town

Though evidence and multiple witnesses paint Bolton as guilty of rape, the basketball star somehow was able to plead down to a lesser charge of assault. He continued to play for the school and remained a sports star…while Hillaire was kicked off the cheerleading squad, ostracized by her schoolmates, and is now ordered to pay $35,000 in legal fees. And justice for all? I think not. 

After attempting to sue her high school for violating her right to free speech by not cheering for her rapist, a court dismissed her case as “frivolous,” stating that,

“In her capacity as cheerleader, [she] served as a mouthpiece through which the school could disseminate speech–namely, support for its athletic teams.” Not cheering for Bolton “constituted substantial interference with the work of the school because, as a cheerleader, [she] was at the basketball game for the purpose of cheering, a position she undertook voluntarily.”

So basically, cheer up or shut up.

The school continued to pressure Hillaire into silence in order to seemingly protect the school’s star athlete. Having been denied justice in court, Hillaire’s family appealed to the Supreme Court, who denied to hear the case. Is it safe to say I think we know which gender society values more?

Follow Heldman’s coverage of the story from the beginning, where she raises important questions about victim-blaming, slut-shaming, consent, glorification of male athletes, and racial politics.

October 15, 2010:    Cheerleader Required to Cheer For Man Who Assaulted Her

October 25, 2010:    Cheerleader’s Father Speaks Out

May 27, 2011:    A Cheerleader’s Rape In A Small Texas Town

June 15, 2011:   A Cheerleader’s Rape In Silsbee, Texas: The Victim On Trial

And if you feel so inclined, you can sign a petition asking Silsbee High School to erase the $35,000 fee that Hillaire’s family has been ordered to pay.


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Turkish Mayor Offers “Obvious” Solution to Sexual Harassment

I’ve been reading and writing a lot about rape, victim-blaming and slut-shaming recently. Maybe I’m just paying more attention now, or maybe the the recent SlutWalk phenomenon has helped vocalize the issues of sexual assault. It also seems that recently more and more people (mostly men) have been suggesting what they think are solutions to stopping sexual harassment. In actuality, these “solutions” are absurd and only work to further degrade women. As written about previously, a police officer in Toronto this year said that women should stop dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized (setting off a series of protests all over the world). And now Mayor Necmittin Dede from Turkey has offered up his own suggestion: women should just not leave the house.

Both these men (and countless others who have similar suggestions about avoiding sexual harassment/rape) essentially blame women, their behavior, their clothing, and their independence for their assaults. How did we come to blame women for their own rapes? It’s becoming frighteningly common for society to teach girls how not to be raped, instead of teaching people that they shouldn’t rape. Instead of suggesting that women stay inside the home (presumably “where they belong”), why didn’t the Turkish Mayor come out with a statement proclaiming that people shouldn’t assault others?

Lana Moore over at Jezebel wrote a great article on the topic. Check it out here.

UPDATE: Apparently a Scottish school has also suggested that school uniforms would help curb pedophilia rates. Right, because adult men pedophiles definitely don’t love a kid in uniform…..Jezebel’s Margaret Hartmann has it covered.

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Media Roudup, 1st Edition: The Strauss-Kahn Scandal

Here are some things in the media that I want to pass along regarding the Dominique Strauss-Kahn rape scandal. They deal with a variety of things, including victim-blaming, responses in the French media, the “conspiracy theories” coming from members of the French elite, and the problematic history of “the great seducer.”  Click on an image below to check out the article/video.

From Feministe:

From Bloomberg:

From the Daily Show with Jon Stewart:

And a second clip, in which Jon Stewart astutely points out that  “The head of the IMF trying to f*** an African” is “like a live action metaphor.”


From Jezebel: 

From Colorlines:


From TIME:  




And finally, from the National Organization for Women:

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